Women can most definitely be their own worst enemy. We criticize our appearance, thoughts, professional or personal direction and even daily decisions be they life altering or what cut of beef to choose at the meat counter. Am I exaggerating? Maybe. But for the most part I know the majority of you are nodding your heads in agreement. We don’t need anyone else to feed our insecurities, we do a pretty good job of that on our own. And for what reason? It’s time we start being nicer to ourselves because how we treat ourselves always reflects back on our treatment of others. How we perceive ourselves, exactly as we are, encourages our children to do the same. Be happy with who you are and what you have. Only then can you truly live.
Krista applied for my “all 4 you | curvy” casting call and I’m glad she did. I’m glad because she took a leap of faith and decided to just go for something – even though she knew it was way out of her comfort zone. How does she feel now that the session is complete? I’ll let you read for yourself….
I take the pictures, I certainly don’t want to be in them thank you very much.
I’m almost 40. Holy crap, I’m almost 40! I have lots of wrinkles and creases, age spots and blemishes, grey hair and hair growing where it should not be growing. Looking in the mirror is tough for me these days. I don’t like what I see because I don’t see the younger, thinner, blonde that I once was. I see a middle-aged, slightly over weight, tired looking woman. I have become a middle-aged Mom…good lord when and how did that happen?
Regardless of when or how it happened, the question that I’ve been asking myself lately is how much of my life am I going to spend criticizing myself for not being the perfect weight, or having too many wrinkles or not looking young and fresh? When am I going to start embracing myself and all of my flaws and just ‘be’?
The monthly, weekly, daily and sometimes hourly internal conversations I have with myself is exhausting. I’m so tired of it I can’t even begin to tell you. I just don’t want to waste any more of my life being so harsh and critical of myself.
Then I saw it…my opportunity to just ‘be’ – Holly’s photo call. Why shouldn’t I enter the “All for You” category? It was my chance to let everything go and just be me for me. What’s even more daring, I would do it in front of another person holding a camera!
So, I’m a dedicated Mom, married to a wonderful man, blah blah blah. Let’s cut to the chase. Have I aged? Yes. Can I fit into my high school jeans? No. Has my body changed drastically since I was in my 20’s? Yes. Am I happy about all of those changes? No. Am I going to continue to beat myself up about it? No. Do I feel better about myself after my photo shoot with Holly? 100% YES.
This morning I looked in the mirror and instead of seeing a middle-aged, slightly overweight, tired looking woman I saw a relatively pretty older chick that could maybe use a little more sleep and a few less cocktails, but hey, that’s me and I’m okay with that.
Thank you Holly.
I want women to realize that there is no perfect size, shape or look for boudoir. It’s about you, it’s All 4 You. You don’t need to live up to society’s expectations of anything, because what society portrays to the masses? It’s not real. YOU are real. Embrace it and appreciate it. Thanks Krista, for doing just that.